@mastina - Come on now. You said you genuinely wanted to repair the damage from SU2. We were always friends before that, and if you are being honest, it seems awfully weird that you keep ignoring me. Post #1799 is the most recent time I quoted what you said. I'm totally open minded on that; just tell me what the intention was there.
In post 1804, Ginngie wrote:Please never play mafia with mastina if it means all you wanna do is write nasty posts because no one wants to see that.
Before SU2, we never had any real issues. We approach things differently, but that has tended to work for the good since the vast majority of the time we've both been town together. I am not certain, but I suspect you probably know my issue with what happened in SU2 and the reasons why I found it particularly personal and hurtful.
I'm a fixer personality. If there's an issue, I'm a get it out in the open, deal with it, make up and spit shake and move on type. It is literally true that 99.99% of conflicts I am involved in progress as follows:
1.) Initially I go quiet and think about it. I try to reason out what's the problem, underlying factors, etc...
2.) I reach out to take care of it.
3.) A few months later I
might
remember there was a problem, but usually have a hard time giving much, if any, specific detail.
4.) A few months after that I won't even remember at all unless prompted, and even then I sometimes literally don't recall.
I don't understand the idea of holding a grudge when I could just take responsibility when I'm wrong, and use the experience to build a stronger friendship. Perhaps that's an artifact of where and when I grew up (Rural Maine back before stores could be open on Sunday in most of the country). Friendship means you take the occasional bad lemons and make lemonaide and sometimes you have to have a knock down fight and throw a few punches, but afterward you come out stronger friends for it, and that black eye is a badge of pride.
I know that I come across very dry and much more harsh in text only communication than I intend to be like 99% of the time (see earlier post where I realized that something I posted COULD be read as if it were dripping with condescension and sarcasm and I literally didn't at all mean it that way and felt the need to post so you would know!). It is, unfortunately I think, an old dog new tricks thing. I have never been able to express typing the way I do talking and in person. Many and many friends who have known me in both contexts have said something along the lines of "Drixx ... you are a great and funny and warm engaging guy in person, and even talking on {insert VOIP medium here}, but in text you're a fucking dick."
So far nobody has ever been able to offer any useful advice for fixing that.
In post 1805, Cerberus v666 wrote:As Drixx said in his entry to this game, his like for yume outweighed his distaste for mastina. Can't let people you dislike keep you from things you enjoy.
More accurate to say that the current unresolved tension was outweighed. Distaste is a place we haven't reached yet. That takes an act of the will. One has to know for certain that the thing they are saying or doing will hurt and do so with that intent before we get there. I don't believe anyone on the internet has managed that yet, as evidenced by the fact that I know literally nobody online whom I would not talk with if they said hi to me via some means of communication.
~D